Comments for The Alternate Lexicon http://alternatelexicon.com absolutely full of trivia Mon, 07 May 2012 19:47:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on beautiful darling, you make me believe by Mom http://alternatelexicon.com/2012/05/05/beautiful-darling-you-make-me-believe/#comment-25262 Mom Mon, 07 May 2012 19:47:38 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=604#comment-25262 So happy you're happy! Love you, too, Kit! But I miss you both. Kiss the kitties for me. So happy you’re happy! Love you, too, Kit!
But I miss you both. Kiss the kitties for me.

]]> Comment on make it last by Sarah http://alternatelexicon.com/2012/02/17/make-it-last/#comment-20477 Sarah Sun, 19 Feb 2012 20:25:56 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=599#comment-20477 Nothing like having the bomb dropped on you, all at once. Hugs and love from Pittsburgh. At least you got a kitten among all of that! And she's adorable. Nothing like having the bomb dropped on you, all at once.

Hugs and love from Pittsburgh.

At least you got a kitten among all of that! And she’s adorable.

]]> Comment on make it last by Ali http://alternatelexicon.com/2012/02/17/make-it-last/#comment-20421 Ali Fri, 17 Feb 2012 22:57:51 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=599#comment-20421 If you tell me to leave accurate feedback when someone else messes up, how is listing what they did wrong inherently mean? I thought it was the easiest way to organise the multiple ways they fucked up. And I never called anyone a fucking idiot; I was really holding back. If you tell me to leave accurate feedback when someone else messes up, how is listing what they did wrong inherently mean? I thought it was the easiest way to organise the multiple ways they fucked up. And I never called anyone a fucking idiot; I was really holding back.

]]> Comment on make it last by Mom http://alternatelexicon.com/2012/02/17/make-it-last/#comment-20412 Mom Fri, 17 Feb 2012 20:29:04 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=599#comment-20412 Sucks about the asshole lawyer. I agree--they should have at least warned you about toning it down at work;but I know you don't do well with stupid. Neither do I. Sucks about the asshole lawyer.
I agree–they should have at least warned you about toning it down at work;but I know you don’t do well with stupid. Neither do I.

]]> Comment on lose ourselves in time by Kit http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/12/27/lose-ourselves-in-time/#comment-18503 Kit Sat, 31 Dec 2011 12:58:59 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=582#comment-18503 my last words for 2011. I love you. Best, most, and always. my last words for 2011.

I love you.
Best, most, and always.

]]> Comment on lose ourselves in time by Ali http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/12/27/lose-ourselves-in-time/#comment-18425 Ali Fri, 30 Dec 2011 02:11:50 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=582#comment-18425 Done and done. We'll get you a bed from Ikea and stash you in the office. Done and done. We’ll get you a bed from Ikea and stash you in the office.

]]> Comment on lose ourselves in time by Hez http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/12/27/lose-ourselves-in-time/#comment-18418 Hez Thu, 29 Dec 2011 21:48:49 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=582#comment-18418 Maybe you can. :) I would LOVE to... SO much... Love you. Miss you. <3 Maybe you can. :) I would LOVE to… SO much…

Love you. Miss you. <3

]]> Comment on lose ourselves in time by Mom http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/12/27/lose-ourselves-in-time/#comment-18402 Mom Thu, 29 Dec 2011 13:20:49 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=582#comment-18402 Glad you're happy (or at least working towards it)! I saved the pictures to my webshots. Glad you’re happy (or at least working towards it)!
I saved the pictures to my webshots.

]]> Comment on lose ourselves in time by Sarah http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/12/27/lose-ourselves-in-time/#comment-18355 Sarah Wed, 28 Dec 2011 06:30:57 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=582#comment-18355 Happy, happy, happy. <3 And some love. Happy, happy, happy. <3

And some love.

]]> Comment on I’ll take a cappuccino by Ali http://alternatelexicon.com/2011/11/04/ill-take-a-cappuccino/#comment-16695 Ali Mon, 21 Nov 2011 09:49:49 +0000 http://alternatelexicon.com/?p=557#comment-16695 Hi, thanks for coming by. I'm not really interested in picking up that argument again at length, though I will say that I disagree with your position that a white parent of a black child becomes defacto part of the black community. They still experience white privilege regardless of their child (and I'm not sure I'm at all comfortable with the implication that who they are ceases to exist outside of their child). They may experience pushback and be placed in a very tough situation in which they are welcome in neither community, but that doesn't automatically grant them a right to the <em>less</em> privilged community. As an allistic parent, you are more aware of ableism and the many ways that society privileges people who are neurotypical by virtue of your position, but you do not ever personally experience those things except through the lense of others. You can't truly be part of the autism community the way you and other parents want because the autism community <i>must</i> be made of autistic people. It's about centering. Autistic people should be at the centre of our own community. Deaf people should be at the centre of the Deaf community (and for many years were not--and, like many autistic people, most Deaf people do not consider themselves inherently disabled). Black people should be at the centre of the black community. We can't spend our time, as oppressed groups, worrying about making sure our allies are okay. Being a true ally means listening and supporting, but it doesn't mean you get to decide you are a part of an oppressed group because you relate to them. You're welcome to spread the somewhat consise autism definition far and wide, and thank you for the compliments. Hi, thanks for coming by. I’m not really interested in picking up that argument again at length, though I will say that I disagree with your position that a white parent of a black child becomes defacto part of the black community. They still experience white privilege regardless of their child (and I’m not sure I’m at all comfortable with the implication that who they are ceases to exist outside of their child). They may experience pushback and be placed in a very tough situation in which they are welcome in neither community, but that doesn’t automatically grant them a right to the less privilged community. As an allistic parent, you are more aware of ableism and the many ways that society privileges people who are neurotypical by virtue of your position, but you do not ever personally experience those things except through the lense of others. You can’t truly be part of the autism community the way you and other parents want because the autism community must be made of autistic people.

It’s about centering. Autistic people should be at the centre of our own community. Deaf people should be at the centre of the Deaf community (and for many years were not–and, like many autistic people, most Deaf people do not consider themselves inherently disabled). Black people should be at the centre of the black community. We can’t spend our time, as oppressed groups, worrying about making sure our allies are okay. Being a true ally means listening and supporting, but it doesn’t mean you get to decide you are a part of an oppressed group because you relate to them.

You’re welcome to spread the somewhat consise autism definition far and wide, and thank you for the compliments.

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