Prosper is sick of travelling. However, he came home with a lovely consolation prize.
At the start of February, I escaped the second of back-to-back snowstorms with a meandering trip down to Atlanta to see Dad and Ron. The cat came along and stayed with Mik, which Prosper was less than enthused about.
This is what I was escaping:
So the cat went to Greensboro to trial run being away from his Mama for a while (he’ll be staying with Mik and/or Mom while I’m in Australia), and I went down to Atlanta.
It promptly snowed, because I am the Bringer of Ragnarok.
Then I came back to Mom’s and rescued my kitten. He was very pleased.
Then we came home, and I got new shoes. The box has been his favourite toy (of course) for a couple of days. Well, besides the Beloved Mousie.
Found at Autism Street originally.
I love TEDtalks; they are often enlightening, often entertaining, often interesting. This talk is by Aimee Mullins, on the nature of disability, and is well worth your 22 minutes.
In more personal news, the cat and I are back from Hotlanta and pictures will arrive shortly.
The DSM-5 is due out in 2013, and it’s official: Asperger’s is no longer going to exist. It will be merged with autism and PDD-NOS into a broad category of Autism Spectrum Disorder, with a “severity” numeric scale to help indicate what services are a good starting point. You can read more about this here at the DSM workgroup.
This change has led to a huge uproar within the autism community. The blogs I like and tend to read are mostly on the autism hub, and for the most part everyone there seems to agree that this is an excellent change. There’s no clinical distiction between AS and autism; the usual differentiation in diagnosis is the age of diagnosis and verbal skills (if you could speak relatively on time as a child or are being diagnosed at a later age or adulthood, AS tends to be the label). These are not good precitive measures of how a child diagnosed as autistic or AS will fare later in life, and an adult with excellent verbal skills may still lack intuitive social understanding or have extreme preoccupations and interests at a level surpassing adults who were diagnosed in childhood with autism. The new criteria seem pretty loose so far, and should encompass the whole spectrum of diagnosable individuals; I do meet the new criteria (though their vagueness took me a while to parse and work out which of the old criteria alligned where).
However, there are a large number of people on the spectrum currently carrying an AS diagnosis who are PISSED OFF. They don’t want to be lumped in with “them”–those autistic people, who you know are totes retarded and need diapers and just stim on string all day.
This, children, is called prejudice, and it’s bullshit.
See, the autism spectrum is broad–probably as broad as the neurotypical spectrum. It covers a range of traits, some contradictory, a range of IQs, a range of self-help skills. A person can be a genius with no ability to converse or remember to bathe, or intellectually disabled with fastidious hygiene and many compulsive behaviours. A person can be me: almost 25, graduate school educated, with a handful of close friends, with poor eye contact, obsessive interests, and some trouble working out emotions and social skills.
To paraphrase Ari Ne’eman, who I think got it very right: My identity isn’t about having AS, it’s about being on the autism spectrum. I don’t care what you call it, it is a huge relief to know that my collection of difficulties and strengths has a name, and there are people like me. I welcome this change, because I welcome the chance to show more people that autism is a spectrum, and we all deserve the help we need to be the best people we can be. I’m not ashamed to be on the same spectrum as kids I work with, or the adults they will grow into, because they are fundamentally human and we share overlapping traits.
Ultimately, I think the autism label will shatter as we find biomarkers for different subsets of persons on the spectrum–this genetic biomarker is linked to these autism spectrum traits, this one to these other traits, and so on. But for now, autism is a behaviour and thought driven diagnosis, and I welcome the inclusion of the spectrum into medical practice.
For more reading on this topic (by no means an inclusive list!):
Bev at Asperger Square 8
Sarah at Cat in a Dog’s World
Left Brain/Right Brain
Sadder but wiser girl at A Time Will Come
Joey and Andy’s mom at Life with Joey
I’ll update later today (it’s after midnight, it’s today!) with hair and cat photos, if I don’t completely forget. As you do. It’s snowy snow snowing outside again. Another 4″ on top of the 8″ we had (that, to be fair, had melted down by half at least) over the weekend, with possibly a couple of feet due over the coming weekend. Cannot. Escape. Fast. Enough. I like snow, but I am so sick of the whining and the not having good vegetables and the slush in my house because my door opens in a weird way and there’s no place to keep a doormat.
Have you, O Reader, ever felt like you can’t catch a break? Every time you turn around, something is happening that prevents you from advancing? Yeah. The last few months have felt like that, and I was bitterly convinced that 2010 would be better because it couldn’t be worse. I stand corrected. It can be at least the same level of suck.
Things that have happened in January since my last substantive post:
1. I fell down the stairs outside my apartment, bruised myself up.
2. I told the neuro the gabapentin wasn’t working and got very little help from him (I’m trying a hefty dose of magnesium and will be adding riboflavin shortly, as reccomended in the best book about migraines I have ever read even if she does think accupuncture isn’t a total sham).
3. The glasses I found and wanted were sold out (I ended up buying the ones with the real! wood! sides!, we’ll see if they’re as badass as they seem)
4. I negotiated/weeped my way to a resolution on my MRI bill (short version: Them: “You don’t qualify for the fee reduction because in the past 3 months you made X with would mean your yearly salary is Y, about $8,000 over the limit.” Me: “Can you not see the part where I did, in fact, make a salary under the limit? This is stupid math.” Then some weeping, and an agreement to resubmit my claim in April with all new paystubs).
5. I had to pay over $400 in taxes because my job sucks at doing their job witholding. Seriously, how could I, at around 200% of the poverty level, owe the feds money? WTF?
6. Prosper sprained his little kitteh wrist and was all limpy until the vet gave him (an expensive) shot that made him a little loopy.
7. Dollhouse ended and the finale sucked.
8. I DID NOT HAVE INTERNET AND IT WAS HORRIBLE DEATH. The internet has now been restored. You can tell, because I am alive.
9. At this point I should make a 10 point list, don’t you think? Uh, I had a serious lack of therapy. Further, my asshole insurance decided I probably only need 6 more sessions. This won’t be a catastrophe because of the moving and all that, but if I wasn’t? Jerks. Therapy is waaaaay better than drugs, even if it is more expensive. We’re working on my awareness of my tendency to be rigid and how to think my way through that. We had a really good one this past Monday about thought planning in new social situations that was super helpful. Fuck you, insurance!
10. My job continues to suck.
I am so looking forward to going down to Dad’s next week. Here’s hoping I don’t get snowed in.
My name is Ali, though sometimes it's Eliot.
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